Morning, dears!
Today I’m going to pop in and chat with you about confidence. To be quite frank, I’m not the poster child for confidence. I have many days myself where I want to wear a garbage bag and destroy every mirror in the house. But, I think we all do, right?
This post isn’t going to “flip-a-switch” and make you go from loathing to loving yourself.
Take note: this is a practical guide.
I’m going to show you practical ways that will hopefully give you little boosts of confidence. At the end of the day, we’re all amazing, beautiful, and one in 7 billion.
Notice Your Strengths
This can be very hard; especially if you’re someone who picks apart everything they ever thought of doing. A strength is a strength no matter how small. If you are a thorough cleaner or are really good at remembering peoples’ names, give yourself a pat on the back. As you start to recognize things you do right instead of things you do wrong, you’ll start to see that you’re not bad at this whole ‘life’ thing after all.
Fashion
This may or may not be for you, but I thought I’d add it to the list. I know if I’m feeling down about myself and I put on a nice dress or pair of heels, I get an instant boost. I immediately feel more confident! The sound heels make when they hit the floor let people know you’re coming through!
Accept A Complement
This is something I used to be horrible at. Whenever someone would give me a compliment, I’d instantly downplay it with, “Oh, my friend can do it much better” or “You’re just saying that to be nice.” When I really should have been thanking them for their kind words. More likely than not, people aren’t going to compliment you out of the clear blue unless they mean it. So, the next time you get a compliment, give thanks not back-talk.
#Boss Playlist
We all have those songs we blast when we’re home alone. Whether it’s Backstreet Boys or T-Swift, if it makes you feel like you’re the star of a music video, listen to it! Music has so many benefits and lifting mood/confidence levels is one among many. Make a playlist of your favorite, confidence boosting songs so the whenever you’re feeling down about yourself you can hit the shuffle button and kiss the bad vibes goodbye.
Everyday Will Not Be Perfect
Bad times truly make the good times better. Sometimes I’ll have back-to-back confident days and then I’ll wake up feeling not so confident. I used to feel like I had failed; I thought I had to be confident 24/7. Not! Being confident is something that takes practice, but it also varies like the weather. Ideally, everyone should feel good about themselves every day, but in today’s world, that’s not realistic. We need to love ourselves no matter what, but not beat ourselves up if we don’t feel 100 all the time.
Embrace Your Perfect Imperfections
In my opinion, the key to confidence is learning to accept the things that made you feel unconfident in the first place. For me, I always worried about my stretch marks or the scars I’ve collected over the years. Now I’m learning that they are part of what makes me, me! They may not be seen on the cover of airbrushed magazines, but they’re seen on billions of people all over the world. I hope that in my lifetime I’ll see people be portrayed more authentically in the media. Most celebrities look different in person than they do on the cover of the top fashion magazines. We as everyday people forget that and feel like we just cannot compete. The truth is we’re all people; no one is greater than the other.
That’s all for today’s post! I hope you guys enjoyed it and maybe it gave you a little more perspective on the world of confidence. ❤
Question Time:
What boosts your confidence?
Thoughts on this topic?
Very lovely post 🙂 I’m also glad to see I’m not the only one who struggles to accept compliments!
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So glad you enjoyed the post! Accepting compliments can be very hard, but doing so is such an amazing feeling. Wishing you a wonderful week 🙂
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I love this post! I couldn’t agree more with this points. Especially fashion. 🙂 Nothing like a good pair of heels or a handbag to give you a boost!
http://www.kathrineeldridge.com
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Thanks, Kathrine! Heels + Handbag = MAJOR confidence boost for me also 😀
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I love this post Edye! I definitely agree with the fashion point, if I’m feeling a bit down but pop on an outfit I love it makes me feel that little bit better!
Amy xx
http://www.callmeamy.co.uk
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Thanks so much, Amy! A cute outfit can make my confidence quite a bit, too! Hope you have a lovely week xx
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These are awesome steps to becoming more self-confident, lady. Everyone can use a confidence boost now and then!
-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge
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Brilliant post Edye, thank you. Everything you listed is so apt.
To look good, boosts my confidence.
I struggle with self confidence. With regards to accepting compliments, that is something I only recently have been able to embrace, and even then I have my days where I battle and I have to remind myself, just to say Thank You.
Thanks again Edye, Hope you have a fabulous week ❤
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Thanks so much, Lynne! I’m so glad you enjoyed this post. Looking good boosts my confidence as well! Wishing you a great week ❤
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Wonderful and perfect! I follow you blog, please follow me too. http://alamodenatine.blogspot.com
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I love this! I have a Be a Bada** playlist I listen to every morning that helps me get ready for the day!
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Thanks so much! I love that title, haha 😉
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Thanks! I needed a title that made me feel better when I needed a pick me up or when I was working out and that was the first thing to pop in my head
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Great tips. I constantly have to train my confidence 🙂
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Thanks, Ewa! Good luck with your confidence gains 🙂
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wow great tips! Nice post, thanks for sharing!
xx
Mónica Sors
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Thanks so much, Mónica! I’m so glad you enjoyed the post xx
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Good stuff we should all remember.
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Thanks, Peter! Have a great day!
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Hi Edye, I love your tips on how to be more confident. Thank you for sharing sweetie. Reading your posts is always such a pleasure.
X
Miri
http://currentlywearing.com
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Hi, Miri! Thanks so much for your kind words. It makes me so happy to know that you enjoy my blog ❤
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I love these tips! Even the smallest things help me boost my confidence, I love having a great mani and going to the gym 🙂
xo
Siffat
http://icingandglitter.com
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Thanks, Siffat! Those make me feel more confident, too. I love a good French Manicure or finishing a killer workout =)
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Great tips, girl! Learning to accept a compliment was really difficult for me at first, but it has been totally worth it. I mentor teenage girls and try to teach them to do this as well! 🙂
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Thanks so much, Rach! I’m sure you’ve been such a blessing to those girls. We all need extra encouragement; especially at that age ❤
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Totally needed this after a semi successful week!
XX from Germany
Jecky
Want Get Repeat
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So glad it was an encouragement to you, Jecky! Have a great weekend xx
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These are great tips, thanks for sharing!
http://www.myclusterofthoughts.com/
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Thanks so much, Katherine!
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Girl, such a wonderful comprehensive list! Thank you for sharing these, and I love the idea of a #bossplaylist! I need to make one. I think mine would be a mix of Broadway, Hilary Duff, and Train.
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Thanks so much, Julia! I love your playlist recommendations. Hillary Duff is always a great choice! I love her songs, “Wake Up,” “So Yesterday,” and “Why Not.” They make me think of middle school 🙂
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Great post, always enjoy reading posts about self-confidence. Have a great day.
xo,
I AM YASMIN
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You’re so sweet, Yasmin! Thank you so much ❤
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I sometimes struggle with confidence and your tips are the perfect ways to improve on it. Thanks for sharing lovely!
Faye .x
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Thanks so much, Faye! I’m so glad this post was an encouragement to you xx
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These are all such great tips! It’s so important to have self confidence – it’s the basis for everything!
Annessa
http://www.seekingsunshine.com
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Thanks, Annessa! I totally agree! Have a lovely weekend ❤
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awww. this is a great post! 🙂
xoxo, rae
http://www.raellarina.net/
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Thanks so much, Rae 🙂
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love this Edye! so many great points 🙂
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Thanks, Lyss! Have an awesome weekend ❤
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I enjoyed this article very much. It is well-written as well as filled with advice most of us can use in order to make our lives better.
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Lovely and encouraging words; thanks for sharing with us at Love to Learn. Pinned.
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Thank you so much, Joanne! I’m so glad you found this post encouraging ❤
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This resonates with me so much, Edye! I’m also not a shining example of self confidence, but I try to embrace my physical and “emotional” imperfections and also my strengths as best as possible. I find that writing an “emotion journal” also helps with reflecting upon insecurities and in turn reduce them. Writing down how lousy or irrelevant you feel in a certain situation or on a certain day (and perhaps flipping through your journal to see your ups and downs) helps to put things into perspective, at least for me! 🙂
*Maisy
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I’m so glad this post was relatable, Maisy! Journaling is an amazing way to keep track of what we’re feeling. Also, like you said, it’s a great way to keep things in perspective. I’m so glad you stopped by my blog today! I hope you’ll come back by soon ❤
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Hi! I hope you’ll be pleased to know that since I enjoyed very mch this post I cited it here: http://www.fromdreamtoplan.net/2017/04/22/sunday-suggestions-17/ 🙂
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Thank you SO much, Lisa! I’m off to go check out your post; you’ve made my night ❤
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My pleasure! 🙂
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