As a blogger, I love writing posts that I would love to read myself.
I love when bloggers are vulnerable and really share whatever is on their heart with their readers. I always have something to say – as if you guys didn’t figure that out already! There’s a boatload of topics that I hope to eventually discuss on my blog. Today’s discussion is going to be on the topic of comparison.
This is something we’re all guilty of. Whether it’s comparing how big our lunch is in contrast to our friends tiny fruit bowl, or how you don’t have the newest iPhone like your cousin does. Comparison is greedy; it never gets enough. It always wants more and more!
We’re all on different paths in our lives. All 7 billion of us.
Comparison is a thief of gratitude. It takes away your being thankful and makes you bitter and envious. Being bitter towards others that have what you wish you had is never the answer. These words are so much more easier said than done; this I know firsthand.
I’ve compared my life to so many other peoples, so many times! I’ve compared my body to an airbrushed supermodel on the cover of a magazine. I’ve compared my friendship I’d had for 3+ years that had drifted apart to people posting selfies with their BFF’s of 20 years on Twitter. I’ve compared both my grandfathers having already passed on to my friends grandpa celebrating his 85th birthday.
See where I’m going with this?
Reading those comparisons probably made you feel sad, maybe even sorry for me.
Now read these…
I went to the eye doctor and got told I have 20/20 vision, a woman who left the office that same day got told she was legally blind in both eyes. My parents are both still living and doing well, there’s hundreds of thousands of children in orphanages that just want to be loved. I have clean, safe water; 1 in 10 people lack access to clean drinking water.
Now how do you feel?
You’re thinking about how good I have it, right?
What I’m getting at is there’s always something to be grateful and ungrateful for. We get to choose which emotion we want to focus on. I know it’s not always easy, but gratitude is always the answer. You’re at this point in your life, be it good or bad, it won’t last forever. So if you’re sad and down, hang in there! It won’t rain forever! If you’re having the best time of your life, savor it. It won’t last forever!
Whatever your situation may be; it is only temporary.
Don’t compare your first chapter to someone else’s ending. So many things you take for granted others are praying for.
Of course we’re all human and probably won’t stop being comparative 100% of the way, and in my opinion, that’s okay. We’re not supposed to be perfect. Comparison can even be good in some cases!
Consider this: Janet has a bad attitude about helping her mom do the dishes and doesn’t finish the job. Her sister Tina takes it in stride, does the dishes, and doesn’t complain one bit. The girls mother appreciates both of their help, but Janet can see how her mother smiles whilst cleaning the dishes with Tina. She see’s how Tina’s positive attitude puts a smile on her mom’s face. Janet compares her attitude to Tina’s and see’s how she could improve herself for the better.
So, comparison isn’t always a bad thing. If you’re using it to better yourself in a non-harmful way, go for it. But, if you’re comparing your life to others and you are left with a feeling of envy and bitterness, please stop.
You’re beautiful in your own unique way. There’s no one in the world like you! Why be a carbon copy when you can be an original? No one is better at being you than yourself ❤
There ya have it! That was my two scents on the topic of comparison. I know some of y’all won’t agree with my views and that’s okay. I love hearing others opinions and views. I hope this post didn’t come of rant-y, but rather encouraging. Have a wonderful day, my friends!
Have you struggled with comparison?
Thoughts on this topic?